Love satisfies a basic human need for us to be close to and supported by a significant other. We are happier, healthier, and even live longer when we have strong, intimate bonds with other people. Relationships with romantic partners are a primary source of the close bonds we need to thrive. Being part of a healthy love relationship has been shown to increase longevity and improve mental well-being.
On the other hand, being at the receiving end of emotional abuse has the opposite effect. The long-term effects from being in a constant fight-or-flight state subtracts years from one's life, and often leads to complete dysfunction and, sadly, suicidal tendencies.
Anyone who is trying to leave an abusive relationship needs to impose very specific tactics in order to break away, heal, and move on towards a better life. Narcissists and emotional manipulators will do anything to get back in. While their unethical behavior should serve as a reminder of why one is enforcing No Contact in the first place, it's often hard to do when one is constantly bombarded with calls, emails, texts, social media notifications, and even in-person visits.
How to Do No Contact like a Boss explains the reasons for going No Contact and takes the listener through the initial planning stages, exit strategies, the moment of No Contact, what to expect in the days that follow, and how to deal with a persistent and/or abusive ex who refuses to respect one's request for No Contact. Also included are alternative healing methods that address what traditional therapy often overlooks.
©2015 Kimberly L Raya (P)2016 Kim Saeed
Full of day to day help I needed and also gave me the strenght and knowledge to do what I needed to do. I will be forever grateful for this book. I would highly recommend this book. It was full of empathy and loving advice from someone who I can tell has been through exactly what I have. I no longer feel so alone and am supplied with a plan of action at last. Namaste
I couldn't put what I have been through in words because it has been so difficult to articulate.... but she did. Just hearing it began the healing process. I am not alone.
"Very helpful. I dont feel so alone anymore.
The information in this audiobook was absolutely invaluable to my situation. Just knowing there are others experiencing this same thing, makes me feel less pathetic. :) (Although my narc would insist that Im still just as pathetic...oh and unworthy of him...bleh!! Enough!!!)
"YouTube videos on narcissistic abuse recovery are more helpful"
That wasn't very much here about how to do no contact. It was basically about breaking down and analyzing narcissistic relationships.
helpful, informative, comprehensive
When I got this book I had already gone no contact. I was having trouble with understanding the whys of what happened in my life and trouble with my decision to walk away. This really did a good job explaining why and how not everyone is capable of having the same kind of relationship that you are and how and why it's important to let go. I loved how many facts she put in and ways to cope.
"Useful although limited BPD coverage"
Really good guide and information. As a survivor or a few relationships with Women with Borderline personality disorder I can say that a lot of the descriptions of why I stayed too long were really spot on. Early on the author mentions that Narcissist would be used as a single term for other personality disorders including BPD. I felt this was an over generalization and the book could have been 5 stars and more applicable to borderline encounters by calling out the differences more often.
Found it by accident and at the right time and haven't put it down. listened to it multiple times already.
Well written and well spoken
Life changing advice
Everything, too much to write here.
I rarely write reviews, made an exception on this one.
It was very helpful. being that I have chip there was good advice on coparenting
"Great piece puzzle in my puzzle to recovery!"
Narrator very easy to understand and her voice is soothing. This book has helped with my monkey mind during my recovery!
"This is a MUST READ!"
For anyone in an abusive relationship, this book provides great information and great resources. Audible is an excellent format to digest this important information.
Through the calming and reassuring voice of Stephanie Murphy, the narrator, Kim Saeed explains how deeply ingrained, brainwashed narc victims destructively think, feel and behave- helping them to realize they're NOT choosing to return to the narc/stay with the narc out of their own free will. Most importantly. the author convinces the listener that the relationship between the narc and his/her victim in NO MORE SPECIAL OR UNIQUE than any other narc/victim relationship.
Get out of the relationship- don't look back! Do the HARD work necessary to heal your inner child, enabling you to attract someone who'll honour you with the love and respect you truly deserve.
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