Parents act as a mirror to show a child who she or he is. Throughout childhood there will be other mirrors, but children inevitably return to the reflection in that original mirror in order to determine their goodness, importance, and self-worth. In Healing Your Emotional Self, Beverly Engle offers her highly effective Mirror Therapy program to help you reject the distorted images your parents either intentionally or unintentionally projected onto you. She explores the seven types of emotionally abusive or neglectful parents and the seven most common parental mirrors, providing specific advice and recovery strategies for each one.
Helping you raise your self-esteem and improve your self-image, this innovative step-by-step program provides you with the skills you need to:
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"Emotionally abusive parents are indeed toxic parents, and they cause significant damage to their children's self-esteem, self-image, and body image. In this remarkable book, Beverly Engel shares her powerful Mirror Therapy program for helping adult survivors to overcome their shame and self-criticism, become more compassionate and accepting of themselves, and create a more posititve self-image. I strongly recommend it for anyone who was abused or neglected as a child." (Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Toxic Parents)
"In this book, Beverly Engel documents the wide range of psychological abuses that so many children experience in growing up. Her case examples and personal accounts are poignant and powerful reminders that as adults, many of us are still limited by the defenses we formed when trying to protect ourselves in the face of the painful circumstances we found ourselves in as children. Engle's insightful questionnaires and exercises provide concrete help in the healing process, and her writing style is lively and engaging. This book is destined to positively affect many lives." (Joyce Catlett, M.A., co-author of Fear of Intimacy)
I thought this book was so on point my mouth was open. I highly recommend you read it to get clarity on your emotional issues. It was very clear on explaining the variety of abuse so that you are better informed and empowered to your power back. Excellent.
It reenforced the truth that our parents values do not have to be ours, we can be free of shame and guilt. We can discover our 'true' self, even after decades of emotional abuse.
Realising I was the child of narcissistic parents. So much of my past suddenly made sense. Plus the freedom of knowing righteous anger is not only okay, but essential if we wish to receive true healing.
Not possible! It is a book that needs to be listened to slowly and repeatedly. It is essential to stop and make time to do the suggested healing exercises.
I have read various books on emotional healing, but I found this one to be the most helpful.
"Presumes a damaged childhood"
While this might make a list of recommended books, it would not be among the first on the list.
I believe the content is sound, and based on years of training and experience. I have no doubt that what is presented is accurate and has insight.
I might. The material in this book is somewhat dry. Ms. Hart's voice is sometimes too soothing - I wouldn't recommend this book while driving!
Perhaps, but it was the wrong book for my particular needs.
This book assumes a person has problems with that stem from bad parenting. In listening to it, I found myself being thankful for my parents who were not abusive, inattentive, manipulative, narcissistic, hyper-critical, etc.
If that is your story, then I believe this book to be quite useful (and I wish you a succesful journey from such a dark place). If you have feelings of inadequacy that are not directly related to your relationship with your parents, this is NOT the book for you.
"Great for anyone into self development"
Absolutely! I think you need to listen more than once as there is so much "work" to do with each chapter, internal reflection. Loved all the examples the author brought into the story telling.
That parental abuse comes in many forms. I'd typically thought of abuse as physical, sexual or of neglectful parent ... hadn't really thought of critical, rejecting or emotional absentee parent would fall in that category.
At times I found hard to listen to as it brought up feelings I hadn't realized I'd been harbouring. But by the end of the book I felt I had my eyes opened and look forward to working on the exercises the author has at the end of each chapter.
Terrible narration. Couldn't finish it.
Some useful stuff there....just couldn't stomach listening to the narrator, so I didn't get too far.
I didn't even understand my pain till I listened. Thank you. I honestly think that this book could help almost everyone to an extent.
I did find this book helpful. It does get a little dark In my opinion when she self discloses and if you have that sort of darkness in your past this could be helpful. In my case my childhood wasn't horrible and it's difficult to say that my parents were either neglectful or narcissistic so sometimes it was hard to relate.
"the most helpful book that I ever read
loved it ! this book and the exercise helped me so much to understand and accept myself in the caring , loving way. giving myself credit for so much accomplish that I didn't even realized before. if you have always struggle with your past and self-esteem do yourself a favor and read this book I guarantee it will change your life .
"Amazing therapy in a book"
Just listening to her soothing voice I feel relaxed. I also feel that I learned a lot of therapeutic techniques to practice in my daily life. My mood has improved so much since I started listening to this book. I highly recommend it and I did my research before I decided to buy it. Very worth it!
"Good book on healing emotions"
Good info, many exercises that, if you wish to do, probably best to do from the physical book. I did not like this narrator - voice was difficult to understand vs others. Some of the concepts a bit far fetched but overall it was very good advice.
"My Emotional Self after many brain surgeries"
Ms. Hart was difficult for me to listen to. I would have rather listened to the author. As for the content I have reviewed and listened to the audiobook multiple times and found her other book about emotional abuse, a better listen.
"Cheap and convenient therapy"
I am really enjoying this book. It is incredibly insightful. It makes you not only think about your parents and their effect on you, but also your kids and how you are effecting them. I will listen to this many times, even though the narrator sounds like a chain smoker who could use a throat soothing Ricola.
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