Healing Sex is the encouraging, sex-positive guide for all women survivors of sexual assault - heterosexual, bisexual, lesbian, coupled, and single - who want to delight in their own sexuality. While most books on the topic broach sexuality to reassure women that it's all right to say "no" to unwanted sex, Healing Sex encourages women to learn how to say "yes" - to their own desires and on their own terms.
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'Healing Sex. A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma' by Staci Haines. A name change for this book is the second edition of 'The survivors guide to sex. How to have an empowered sex life after childhood sexual abuse.'
In some ways it is better in audio because you can hear the words of others traumatized and it makes it more real and understandable that you are not alone. It is healthy to hear the variety of sexual words said out loud to remove some of the "taboo" from them.In other ways, I'd like the book. I'd like the list of references and I'd like to have the chapter guides to use as a check off sheet to provide structure and steps to move through trauma.I intend to buy the book too. It is an incredible resource.
Reality about norms, normalicy of sex and sexual terms and behaviors.
Definately not. This is a lot of information to take it.
If you have had sexual trauma, believed that sex is dirty or wrong, digest this book!
It's unfortunate this book needs to be written - it's too bad 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men will be sexually abused. But since we haven't figured out a way to break the cycle of abuse and stop the abusers from violating those younger and more vulnerable, we can all read books like this and heal from the abuse that is passed down with each generation.
This book offers critical information on healing and sex ed, but I found the way it was recorded to be very confusing. The book is edited so that the narrator reads in a rapid, seamless fashion; she shares info from the author, and then without pause launches into a personal account from someone interviewed. This breathless approach left me constantly confused, recalibrating and shaking my head. I kept getting wrong ideas and messed up context. Maybe this is an example of a book that doesn't translate well to audio, or perhaps they could have set it up differently.
Enjoyed the book and thought the information was well thoughtout. I also thought the narration was top notch and well paced. Thank you.
"important and useful"
I'm not a survivor of childhood abuse, but of an adult abusive relationship. My girlfriend recommended I read this, and I'm glad I did. It's sex positive, queer positive, and affirming. The voice of the narrator felt a little new-agey, but wasn't off putting. I appreciated the chapters about working through triggers and dissociating the most.
I have listened twice this book and I am going to buy a paper copy of it now.
"Some good advice with obvious red flags!"
She presents a lot of scientific studies so it seems convincing, but there are a lot of holes in her advice! She encourages SNM as healthy; as long as both adults consent. How is inflicting pain healthy? Why would someone need to have that kind of "power" to be aroused? Sounds similar to an abuser to me. If someone is drawn to that method, it's because they were treated that way and haven't truly healed. Additionally, I have never met or heard of a homosexual that wasn't sexualy abused (conscious or subconscious knowledge of the abuse). For a true healing, I would argue they would choose a natural state of sexual expression. Pornography and multiple partners is another red flag. If you can't be aroused by natural enjoyment and expression with yourself or a committed opposite sex partner you are still damaged. It is possible but it takes a true healing that this book does not offer. Thanks for listening.
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