The New York Times bestseller, which for 10 years has been a must-have for women in business, is now completely revised and updated. In this new edition, internationally recognized executive coach Lois P. Frankel reveals a distinctive set of behaviors-over 130 in all-that women learn in girlhood that ultimately sabotage them as adults. She teaches you how to eliminate these unconscious mistakes that could be holding you back and offers invaluable coaching tips that can easily be incorporated into your social and business skills. The results for hundreds of thousands of women have been career opportunities they never thought possible - at every stage of their career, from entry-level to the corner office! Stop making "nice girl" errors that can become career pitfalls, such as:
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"This audiobook is filled with something you or one of your friends do every day...A simple, quick guide to presenting ourselves as the strong and bold women we are." (Gail Evans, author of She Wins, You Win and Play Like a Man, Win Like a Woman)
"Any woman intent on getting ahead in the corporate world should listen to this book. It's a fascinating crash course in image, influence, and communication, from an accomplished and insightful coach. Terrific stuff!" (Anne Fisher, senior writer, Fortune, and "Ask Annie" career columnist, CNNmoney.com)
Overall a pretty good book and worth the read. There is some really sound advice contained in it. Can't say I agreed with absolutely all the points she raised. There were a few moments when I felt like the author was a bit of a woman-basher. It would have been helpful to get a bit more of a balanced view on the things successful women do well as opposed to stressing how pathetic women are in comparison to men.
"Recovering Nice Girl"
I would absolutely listen to this again because its chalked full of tips and advice that apply to so many different situations a woman finds herself in at work.
I thought a lot about The Confidence Code by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman when I listened to this. While that book explores the problems women face with confidence, this book shows you how to address and conquer those problems in the workplace.
Strong confident narration - It felt like getting a pep talk from a well respected, no-nonsense mentor.
I had an epiphany-like moment over and over again when Frankel points out that when people shame a woman for unladylike behavior, it's not because there is such a shameful thing as unladylike behavior, it's because it's the easiest and most effective means of getting whatever it is they want out of you.
Because we've been so conditioned to be pleasing to others, accusing a woman of behaving in an unpleasing manner is like an automatic shut off button that manipulative people use against us. Accusations and implications of this manner have no basis in reality, it's just a means of shutting us up and keeping us out.
I'd downloaded several other career advice audiobooks before this one, as I was looking for career advice because I'm a new grad starting my first corporate job. I found the other new grad career advice books rather trite and unhelpful. I was hesitant about this purchase because I wasn't worried about snagging the "corner office," so much as just getting started, but I am so glad I found this gem as I begin my journey through the corporate world.
I'm so impressed with the book I intend on buying copies for female friends as graduation presents. I also loved that Frankel recommends a plethora of other resources and career coaching books throughout. She is a generous author who never fails to cite and recommend her influences, a rare skill in a world of self-promotional and narcissistic branding.
This was one of my favorite audible experiences. Highly Recommended!
"Hidden Gem-A Must for Women Who Want to Excel"
I have been recommending this book to any woman who I feel has what it takes or has an interest in excelling in the business world. I can't say enough good things about it.
One thing that should be noted, is that Lois acknowledges the significant shaft that women of color experience vs white women. This is important because it shows how she can view situations objectively-which adds to her credibility. In my experience, it's rare to come across a white woman who can see and relate to our added challenges.
The author said avoiding office politics was a mistake. For years, I have been trying to avoid the politics because I thought I was above it, and I thought it was the "right" thing to do. My mistake.
I was a bit overstimulated. In the beginning, the author goes over some appalling statistics. After the initial shock and anger, I continued on. She discusses the unconscious mistakes that women make in the workplace-and she offers coaching tips. I feel like Lois is my personal career coach. A light bulb went off with this one.
I almost didn't make the purchase because I pretty much hate the color pink (it's been forced on me all my life) and I didn't like the title. I debated between this book and How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie. I thought I needed something more tailored to me-a woman. So, after reading the reviews, I decided to purchase Nice Girls. I am so glad I did.
"Best Audiobook !"
Didn't realize all the mistakes I was making. Reminds you not to settle. Gives you different scenarios and better ways to approach and formulate a better response on difficult situations.
"LOVE This Book"
I read a physical copy of this book years ago - early in my career - and was able to implement suggestions immediately. I came back to it recently because I remember just how great it was. It's still great, even further into my career. It is filled with very practical suggestions that can be applied right away. Furthermore, the author provides supplemental material and further reading suggestions. I'm so glad to have given this a second read, and highly recommend it.
"A Nice Girl Who Changed"
I wanted to read this book for a few years now and finally took the time to listen to it. It was well worth the wait. Dr. Frankel talks about everything from how to dress for the office, to how to negotiate salary and network for women. She discusses how when it comes to networking we as women do not value ourselves or short change ourselves in terms of our worth. I definitely plan on implementing some of her tactics in the future on how to change some of my current habits.
I think ever working woman should read this book. Even if you just go away with one idea it puts you that much ahead of the game.
"New lessons and Great reminders"
It was great to hear confirmation about several of the tips that I was already doing which helped to open up to new advise on things that I am either not doing or was unaware I was wrongfully doing. I walked away more confident and inspired after the book and will re-read it again and again.
How important it is to be among the first to speak in meetings.
When Lois spoke about standing up for yourself and how to professionally defend or point out when others try to scape goat you.
A great read, a must for all women in an office setting looking to get ahead.
"Very Helpful Tips for Office Women"
I wished I could have learned about these mistakes and tips right after college. I've definitely made a lot of the mistakes the author mentioned, and I'm so glad that she also provided helpful tips to fix my habits, so I can get back on the game.
"Could not download audio version after purchase"
I literally could not download the audio version after its purchase although the relevant amount is deducted from my bank account. The records in audible.com says it is not available for download!!!
"Perhaps for an older generation"
No, I would not recommend it to a friend. I felt like this book was written for an older generation of women. I could find very few connections to the women in her stories. I personally do not fear men, nor do I fear telling coworkers how I feel. I do not feel like I have to make everyone like me. I do not feel like there are such "huge" differences between men and women these days that women need their own self-help book. I think previous generations may have needed it. I don't see my coworkers as genders but as personalities.
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