As someone who suffers from social anxiety due to a horrid spate of bullying at school, I was looking for a way of addressing these issues via an audio book.
The information is horribly dry and just filled with statistics which ultimately do nothing apart from letting you know that your condition is quite common and is filled with terribly patronising by telling me that introverted people are more empathic..I dont care!
The advice in this book is filled with painful advice suggesting small talk introductions and getting people to talk about themselves as people like talking about themselves.
Its like a mix between a PHD and a well meaning mother offering impractical advice which doesnt address and solve the underlying problems.
A very poor and impractical audio book which does not tell you how to overcome shyness and social anxiety, but rather how to develop behaviour to blend in, to accept that this is your genetic lot in life via scientific data, to learn conversation techniques and that an introverted person is perfectly normal, so chin up and stop criticising yourself.
This book is written by someone who has not suffered from social anxiety and shyness, or has done and manages her condition by clinging onto scientific norms and "so tell me about yourself" types of conversation.
Absolute waste of time
Do not bother, it is an awful book.
This is no joke. I started this book being very cynical thinking you can have anecdotal tales that prove anything, and really this is such a "dated" book that it was probably a mistake buying it ...but something struck a chord as it is really well narrated and so I decided to put it to practice.
...at the risk of sounding like an anecdote from from the book .... I had recently been missold something at a large retail store and had been back 3 times, and got no joy. So, I wrote a letter looking at it from their point of view rather than mine. My usual letters would have been stern and objectionable and damning of their customer services, and usually I'd get back a response just as challenging, and this goes on for a while until I give up, or win the argument. Anyway, usuing the approach in this book which is so easy to follow, two days later, a phone call, with an apology, and a refund for £109...sorted. I tell you - I'm bought on this. Its also helped me settle a dispute with an awkward colleague who loves to argue. I settled the debate in one email - to my satisfaction - as opposed to 6 or 7 which it would usually take.
It's read in a very listen-able format and I echo the sentiments of the majority of reviews on here - listen to this - it will change your outlook on human behaviour, and take it from me...it works.