An extraordinary book that challenged the way I think about relationships. By putting forward a series of "false premises" under which we operate, it turned many of my preconceptions and assumptions on their head, and forced me to rethink how I relate to others in my life.
For example, one of the ideas put forward is that it is not the job of others around me to behave in a way that makes me happy. My happiness is my responsibility and mine alone. Think about that idea (whether you agree with it or not). Do you really want other people to change their behaviour in order to make you happy? Of course it's great when other people behave in ways that are pleasing to me, but what if they don't? Do I spend my life trying to change them into the people I want them to be, so that I can be happy?
And on the other side, am I willing to change my behaviour to keep them happy as well? Who do I please, and what happens when two people that are important to me have different ideas about who I should be?
I realised how much power I give away in my life, by handing my happiness to other people, by allowing other people's behaviour (over which I have no control) to be the decider of whether I will have a happy life or not. Worth thinking about...and this is just one of many ideas put forward.